This is how to recognize a narcissist on your first date

It remains exciting, a date with someone you barely know. It makes sense that you are nervous when you are going to chat for the first time with a handsome guy.

Yet there is something you definitely need to pay attention to when you enter the world of singles, first dates, and second and eighth dates. Because the last thing you want is to come home with a strange bird. A weird grape. A selfish, no, even narcissistic man. Narcissistic people: they really are more common than you might expect. How do you recognize that in someone, narcissism? It is actually quite close to self-confidence. And someone like that seems very charming, but oelala… It's all a trap.

He only talks about himself

Narcissism is a mental disorder that makes it difficult for people to show empathy for others. A narcissistic person likes to talk about themselves. Well, more people do that. We do it sometimes too, when we want to share something. But if you notice that someone shows very little interest in you and truly demands all the attention, then you know that you might better not drag him home.

He complains

You can also notice it by the fact that he has a lot of criticism about everything and cannot handle small setbacks. If something goes just a little differently than planned. That he thought he would eat at that table in the restaurant but then has to move… He can't handle that. Complaining is a thing anyway. If he constantly whines about everything that goes wrong in his life, that can also be a signal that something is off.

He needs validation

Other strange things? If he constantly needs validation from you. That he has to keep hearing that his outfit is nice and that you think his hair looks sexy. Not just once, but thirty times. He needs positive attention all the time. All the time.

He promises a lot

He has the biggest talk about his work, that he will arrange a new bag for you, that he will take you to the most expensive restaurant in town… But he doesn't do it. They are way too exaggerated talks that are a bit too high-handed. That he can get everything done in the world. Everything. Uh, yeah.

He is immediately very jealous

He doesn't want to listen to stories about previous guys in your life and he actually doesn't want to hear that you did something fun with a friend yesterday. Or with your mother. He is jealous of everyone else in your life and he wants to have you all to himself. Only when you talk about him does it interest him. He is always number one and otherwise, it doesn't matter to him. A bit crazy.

Better not down four glasses of wine right away and pay a little attention during that first date. And also during your fourth date with Mr. Charming. Because brr… Know who you are dating.