Why you should be single in a relationship

Of course, you are completely in love with your partner. He is your home, your love, your attention, and your coziness. Your best buddy.

Nice and fine, but don't forget to be a little single in your relationship from time to time. Yes, really. Because otherwise, you suffocate yourself. Go to the pub on Friday with your girlfriends and only with your girlfriends. No men allowed. Don't just meet up with the girls on a night when your boyfriend isn't home. No, you can also perfectly have a night out even if you know he's just lounging on the couch. It's more important than ever to keep your own life. Go out, go dancing, go for drinks.

That keeps you happier. Happier in your life and in your relationship. This way, you actually have something to tell each other. That keeps the excitement alive. You find your partner more attractive when he has gone out with friends for a night. Believe us. If he's always 24/7/365 available for you, then he's no longer an interesting man for you. You also want to stay exciting. Go out without each other. Into the city. To a birthday. To a party. Cook something you like and eat alone.

Moreover, it helps you if it ever does end with your partner. You have your own safety net and you can manage. It's not just your girlfriends who are there for you, but also your own career. Go for that good new job, go for that promotion, do work that you really enjoy and don't stop once kids come along. You stand much more confidently in your life. If you combine all that with your own hobbies, like yoga or drawing classes, then your relationship is just fine. You have your life, he has his life – and together you have your life. But that is separate from your own little things. You don't have to do everything with him. On the contrary, actually.

Make sure to do something alone. It's an eye-opener for many, because we often tend to do a lot of things with our partner or otherwise with a girlfriend or mother or sister. Especially if we've been single for a long time, it's tempting. But even sleeping a night alone feels good. Going solo to the movies once. Having lunch without someone next to you on the couch. Quite cool. And that's allowed too. The nicer it is to cuddle on the couch again after a few hours alone. You suddenly realize what you appreciate about him and no relationship lacks that.