Being the first to become a mother among your friends is awesome
They are talking about work trips to Barcelona or Milan, I am talking about fruit purees with banana or fruit purees with mango.
They are talking about promotions, bonuses, and new jobs, I tell them about the oh my god – how then – eight hours of sleep I had. They laugh about wild nights at the pub, I laugh about my little ones who can turn over after five months. That is quite a milestone, in case you are not a mother yet. They are tired from work, drinks, and hangovers, I am tired from, well, giving bottles. Yes, there are suddenly many differences between the lives of my best friends and mine. And that’s not a bad thing.
On the contrary, it’s amazing to be the first mother of all your friends, because they now have all the time for your little ones. Of course, they are busy with their careers and their men and their party nights, but they are quite curious about how you do it as a mother.
Everything is new for me now and my friends want to know all about it. It’s so nice to have girls around me who have loved Bodi and Daaf since day one. Who empathize with every new diaper size. Who come with a new onesie every week because they ‘just couldn’t leave that in the store’. Who I can send baby spam of babies sleeping, babies eating porridge, babies laughing every day. That makes being the first mother of all your friends more fun. And that’s not ‘lonely’, which I was sometimes afraid of during my pregnancy.
Of course, sometimes it’s a bit strange when I see or hear via the app that they are having drinks everywhere and nowhere or can easily spend a night away or can easily stay out until four in the morning after a dinner. Or just easily get out the door. When I need to go to the hairdresser, it’s already a real plan with babysitting grandmas. And then I can sometimes feel jealous: the freedom you have without children, you only realize when you no longer have it. But it’s okay. I have also stood in those pubs so many times and have also had drinks with hangovers to the heavens and back so many times. Just because it was possible then. I’m glad I was everywhere years ago and that I can now go to bed at ten on a Friday night or fall asleep on the couch at nine with a pacifier in my hand. So don’t worry if your friends aren’t ready for kids yet and you are. It’s just fun: you’re in the spotlight with your baby, all the aunts who get your child always want to come by to cuddle for a bit, and from the moment you are the first to be pregnant, you are already special. They don’t know this yet, you do. And: your little ones will do everything first. They are the oldest, so you can help your friends with all the phases when they also become mothers and don’t know how it works with a daycare, a lice mother day, or a first flu. After all, you are already 9773 diapers in. Sorry, I probably shouldn’t say that. They might not dare anymore.
Pregnant woman takes onesie out with friend on bed.
