Hey, it's okay: everything you recognize if you're not a group person

I can't help it, it's stronger than me. I struggle constantly between two desires: I want to belong to a group, but the need to do my own thing and withdraw sometimes is just as strong. And well, you can resist that (done it long enough by the way), get angry at yourself and continuously compare yourself to others, but what you can also do is accept who you are. Bring the pink elephant out of the room, express it to your surroundings and make it okay.

I didn't find it easy to accept this trait, quite the opposite. But it gave me a lot of peace when I did. Prefer a lone wolf than a group tiger? Do the checklist.

Being with more than three people = group = error in the upper room
You have to divide your attention. Nothing else comes in between. It will automatically isolate you. Error. Irritation. Error. Irritation. Explosion danger. RUN.

Your friends are all loose ends
With whom you prefer to meet one-on-one, which allows you to dive deep regularly – especially after a bottle of wine. Superficial relationships are not really your thing.

You get the creeps from student housing situations where thirty people live

Never. But. Then. Ever. Never. For. So. Long. Will. They. Live.

Team sports weren't really, um, your thing either

God, you seem to be becoming a more sociable person, huh? STOP. THINKING. LIKE. THAT. Go work out. Go play table tennis. Go swimming. Team sports are simply not meant for everyone.

People sometimes think you're arrogant

You're not, it just takes a while before you embrace someone, but once he/she is in your heart, that person can call you awake at night. You are there. Always. Just not for everyone.

Sometimes you need a moment for yourself out of nowhere

Of course you love socializing and friendships are important to you, but there are also moments when you like to shut yourself off from the outside world and prefer to be alone for a while.

You are an animal lover

Animals speak the language you understand. Plus: they always accept you as you are (sounds a bit sad, HAHA), so with all your quirky antics included. Well, you and animals just connect very well.

Sometimes you think: yuck, just be sociable. Just do what is expected of you...

But then the little rebel in you comes up again who does what she enjoys and then you know you are hopelessly lost.

You worry quickly and make it unnecessarily difficult for yourself

You sometimes think about how you can improve yourself. In fact, you wonder why you can't just ‘easily join in’ with a group. And because of this, you can drown in worrying.

A tip from me: by making it a less big problem that you don't always gallop along with the group, you can eventually say ‘no’ with less guilt. Introvert and extrovert, sweet and strict, altruistic and selfish, we all have opposites in our character. You are great just the way you are. Unique in your eccentricity. Just remember that the next time you isolate yourself. You little lovely lone wolf.