The sex trend of 2019

Five years ago, we found having an open relationship ‘super weird’ and ‘an excuse to cheat’, nowadays we find an open relationship ‘progressive’ and ‘nice and modern’. It is even called a trend for 2019. But leading a non-monogamous life is not for everyone. So does such a form of free love appeal to you? First check the dangers.

On the seesaw

Taking the step from a monogamous relationship to an open relationship is huge. Before you even propose it: try to form a picture of how the future will be. Do you want this forever or just until you find someone you want to be exclusive with? If in doubt: don't do it.

Especially read the advice from LotteLust's sexologist on how to approach a open relationship open relationship.

Not communicating

An open relationship does not mean that you can both run around and do whatever you want. Every couple makes a set of rules in advance. Clear communication is of (love) life importance. You always discuss what, how much, when, and with whom you can do something. You also decide whether or not to share your sexual outings: beforehand, afterwards, or never. If you don't talk about this, secrets can arise and trust can be lost.

Jealousy

The green monster is already a killer in a ‘normal’ relationship, let alone in an open relationship. If you are prone to jealousy (or your partner, of course), it is not a good plan to enter such a free form of love. If you are considering an open relationship, think very carefully that your sweetheart might also dive into bed with someone else.

Note: an open relationship is not a way to spice up your dull sex or love life. These 6 ways will give your relationship a healthy boost.

Love lurking

You don't want to think about it, but it happens. Your other half can fall in love during a date with someone else. In our opinion, this does not mean that open relationships don't work. Someone can also fall in love with a colleague, a mutual friend, or another person they see often. It is wise not to venture into an open relationship if you cannot separate sex and love and quickly get butterflies.

Do you want multiple relationships? Then go for the other modern form of love polyamory. This means that you maintain two or more monogamous relationships.