Why most relationships end after date number four

Of course, that first real, official moment together is everything-defining. That first date must be so pleasant that it leaves you wanting more. But date number four is the biggest milestone.

So forget that first appointment, anyone can do that. A bit of laughing, chatting, telling who you are, and especially downing a wine or three while playing with your hair. It's fun, you meet up again. And again. But then... It's time for date number four. You've had deeper conversations, you now know what kind of person you have in front of you and who is sitting across from you. He does too. If after this evening you go home together, stay over, and are already talking about ‘what shall we do this weekend?’ or where you might want to go next Friday, then you're good. Then you know it's soon going to get very, very serious. If it doesn't happen, then it's painful but true: date number four is the last one.

Just because you see each other for the fourth time, you know enough about each other to determine whether this is going to click for real or not. That's why there are real tips for this important meeting. You should do something active and do something the whole day. Go somewhere. The zoo, the beach, a new city. Spending time together. In English, there's even a name for it, about what you talk about during this fourth date. DTR: ‘Define the relationship’. Or not. Either it's on and dating, or it's definitely off and finished. And the general rule according to relationship experts is: if you don't know where it's all going after the fourth date, then it's probably never going to happen. Harsh but true.

That's why most loves fade away after number four. It seemed so nice, but it wasn't quite right. You've invested enough to be sure of your case. He has too. You start looking further. Or, if you're unlucky, he starts looking further while you were still considering number five. Research shows that most people start a relationship with each other after one month of dating. Then they were sure. And if you see each other once a week... Right. Just add it up.

Well, we don't want to make you more nervous than you already are, but pay close attention to what you do after those three innocent dates. It certainly can't hurt to pull something extra fun out of the closet.