3 tips for when you're tired of being single

You have all the freedom in the world. No one nags about where you hang out. You can lie diagonally in bed. You have more time and money for yourself, more space to make mistakes, more freedom to make your own decisions. And yet you are a bit fed up with being single.

I have these conversations regularly with friends and I keep hearing: ‘Look, those nice guys are really not just lying around, you know.’ I believe that immediately. I just opened my laptop and went to the website mannengeheim.nl (do you know this one?). One Tim Veninga gives thousands of tips about love there. Useful tips too. Are you tired of being single? Tim gives advice and I find this his most useful tips.

This sounds very simple but really: make sure you get a more fun life
Investing in your own life first is not such a crazy idea. If you want to find a nice partner too badly, you put yourself in a disadvantageous position. You suddenly encounter all kinds of types who are not good for you at all. It's like going grocery shopping when you're hungry and coming home with all the wrong things. Go grocery shopping with a full stomach, that works better. First date with yourself and then make it fun with someone else.

Yes really, practice makes perfect: the time of sitting still is over
That special partner you can fall head over heels for? No, they don't just ring your doorbell out of nowhere. You will have to meet a lot of types of people to eventually conquer that one special specimen. Many singles avoid dating because they find it awful to be rejected or are afraid of meeting weirdos. But honestly: often you have to go on dozens of dates to figure out what you want. Sometimes you also need to feel what you do not want. But as long as you are not dating at all, you won't meet anyone either. See it as a goal for yourself to become a pro-dater. You quickly sense whether someone does something for you or not. Dating a lot and dumping quickly is the ideal way to find a nice partner. Don't keep others hanging if you already feel it's not going to work. Just move on. And then suddenly you are struck by that lightning bolt from someone. Really.

There are multiple ways to Rome
And the more of those roads you walk, the greater the chance that you will eventually reach Rome. Why be so busy searching? You develop your taste and discover what you do and do not find attractive. In addition, you meet more people this way and increase the chance of meeting the one.

• Think of internet dating (Tinder, Happn, Bumble, you name it)
• Think of places (terraces, nightclubs, pubs)
• That handsome colleague at your work...
• Random people you meet on the street
• Ask your friends if they know any nice single men or women
• Speed dating. No matter how awkward this sounds: it is a very effective way to quickly find out what you do and do not like in a partner.