BDSM for beginners really exists (and this is how to approach it subtly)

Everyone has heard of it or come across it somewhere. BDSM has almost become a fixed part of the sex culture. But you don't just start with BDSM without preparation. Are you curious about the world of bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism? Then LotteLust has a few tips for you BDSM for beginners.

Take stock
Not sure if your lover is ready for this adventurous outing? Communication is of course key. But if you find this difficult, or your partner is not quite sure yet, you can also explore together. Read about it online or watch together BDSM movies. This way, you can both gauge what you do and especially what you do not want to try. More tips to explore whether you are ready for BDSM can be found here.

Preparation
Have you made a decision? Agree on a code word before you take action, so you can always stop immediately when it goes too far for you. And make sure, at least the first time, that you are both sober. So no alcohol or drugs. This way, you can feel your own boundaries much better and prevent regret later about things you have done.

Also, create a relaxed atmosphere, whatever that means for you. Make sure you feel safe.

Furthermore, it is helpful to discuss in advance what you are going to do, so you know what you need. You can then prepare that in advance, which prevents awkward (and unhygienic!) situations.

Getting started
The most accessible way to start with BDSM is to play with dominance and submission. When you start for the first time, you really don't have to set up a whole Christian Grey room right away. Start with household items (think of: a wooden spoon, belt, or tie). But you can also think broader. Wear an exciting second skin outfit or let him wear one under his suit to work. And then secretly command him to take an exciting photo and send it to you. Prefer to be submissive? Let yourself be tied up, spanked, blindfolded, or dripped with candle wax. As long as you have discussed in advance who takes which role and what you are going to do, you can make it as wild as you want.