The big differences between falling in love and loving

Clammy hands. Not being able to stop smiling when you see the person. Butterflies in your lower belly. Feelings of happiness coursing through your body. Ugh. If only infatuation could last forever. That's what we always want, right? Back to the beginning of that relationship?

Yet loving is underestimated. The butterflies in your stomach disappear at some point, but that does not mean you love someone less. More importantly, you are entering a different phase: the love phase. What is the difference between falling in love and loving? Experts figured it out.

You do your own thing during the day vs putting someone first
In love, you pay attention throughout the day to what you value. You don't see your partner as the highest priority of the day. In infatuation, you are more likely to put your partner first.

It's easier to do things separately vs. you want to be together
In the love-of phase, you let go of each other more easily, even in and around the house. You are fine with doing things alone (wonderful even!) and wish the other person the same. People in love prefer each other's company above everything else.

You feel less sexually attracted at some point vs the passion is still there
In love, you sometimes doubt your sex life. According to experts, no reason to worry: this happens even in the best relationships and is normal. You understand: people in love don't have to think for a second whether they still desire sex with the other person. Something to do with Duracell bunnies and preferably three times in one day.

You respect the other person vs. you cannot do without the person
In loving, you have a genuine interest in the other person. Do you sometimes worry. Wish him/her well. In love, you think more about yourself. Above all, you wish yourself well. You want to share your whole life with your partner and this urge feels so intense that you cannot imagine your life without them.

You want to see the other person grow vs. you find the other person sexy 
Being in love with someone can stem from attraction, possessiveness and obsession. In most cases, looks and physical presence have the upper hand. Loving someone goes beyond that. You look beyond the flaws, you want to support the person, build something together, inspire and see the person grow and flourish.

You want the best for the other person vs. you want the best for yourself
Loving is about wanting only the best for your partner, even if that means letting love go. In love, you can't even think about this idea without experiencing spontaneous depression.

You have no choice vs. you have a choice 
When you are in love you have no choice and accept all the other person's flaws and quirks. When you love someone you make the choice to accept these flaws and quirks.

Source: Bedrock