Science confirms: sleeping apart is better for your sex life

Do you want to stay a little sexually active with your lover? Do you want to make it happen again tonight? Then definitely do NOT lie next to your love. 

No. Sleep alone. Find a guest bed. Find your own bedroom. That's better for your health, your sex life and your figure, research shows.

Canadian researcher Colleen Carney has studied this and says: ‘Couples say they sleep better when they sleep together. But when we monitor their brain activity, it turns out they often wake up at night due to each other's movements or sounds.’ In other words: you might as well take a nap in your own room. Because the idea of a shared bed is actually very old. In Roman times, there were large beds, but they were purely used for you-know-what. After the deed, people simply went to their own sleeping space. You actually sleep best alone. No tossing, no tugging at the blankets, no snoring. Just you and your dreams.

And you already know: a good night's sleep is crucial if you want to function a bit in life. You eat more fatty foods when you're tired because your brain indicates it needs more energy, you can handle stress less well, and you don't perform particularly on point at work. You're grumpy. And why do you have more sex when you're NOT sleeping together in one bed? You have to consciously take action for sex from then on, and that often works too. If you both have your own bed to sleep in, and you seek each other out for a bit, then the signal of ‘I want sex’ is immediately clear. Then it happens. If you sleep together in one bed and also have (sometimes) sex there, then the signal is not clear when you go to bed, because then you might want sex OR want to sleep. And usually, you just go to sleep.

So don't think it's weird or that you're not romantic if you go for your own sleeping space. Often the idea that your love sleeps somewhere in the same house or is nearby is calming enough, making you happy to fall asleep.. Your partner doesn't need to lie next to you for that. ‘Couples should consider sleeping apart for better sleep and a happier relationship,’ it sounds. About ten percent of couples say they sleep apart, while 25 percent of people say they sleep better when they practice solo sleeping.

So still space left in the house? Time for action. Just put a bed down. You won't regret it.

Source: Margriet