These are the 3 biggest mistakes women make in relationships
How is it that one couple gets the stamp #CoupleGoals and the other fights each other out of the tent? Is it simply due to the match or can you get good at relationships? Can you learn how it works? According to Iyanla Vazant, yes.
Iyanla who, I hear you thinking. Let's see how I'm going to introduce this American guru to you. She is quite a lot, actually. First of all, a super inspiring speaker. Lawyer. New Thought spiritual teacher. Author. Life coach. TV personality. And during a YouTube click-through afternoon (you have those sometimes, right?), I suddenly came across a video of her in which she reveals what the three biggest mistakes women make in relationships are.
Trust me: very interesting. I'm going to share them with you.
The first tragic mistake
Women do not express what they truly want well. Instead, women often accept what is available or what they think is available. But if a woman does not ask for what she wants or what she needs (and as a result, she doesn't get it), then she risks becoming, well, a bit bitter and resentful. According to Iyanla, it is very difficult to lead an unfulfilled life. ‘Some women tend to expect little, and for that reason, they also get little.’ Not asking for what you want: big mistake number 1.
You should be ashamed of yourself for the second mistake when you read it...
This is a huge one that women often don't even realize. They gossip about their partner to others. ‘Gossiping about your partner to people outside the relationship destroys the ‘sacred energy’ in a relationship. It's fine to have that one girlfriend or your mother with whom you can share your frustrations or difficulties to get support or advice, but this should really be about your difficulties.’ Read carefully: not your partner's bad habits, insecurities, failures, and shortcomings. That is outright gossip. ‘It's a big mistake that women make because they don't realize that what ruins a relationship comes from the relationship itself, not from others. Gossiping about your partner is also a form of betrayal of trust.’ My sister woman, don’t do it. It can ruin your relationship.
Ready for mistake number three?
Not seeing who the other truly is. Or rather: assuming that the partner is as we think we see or want to see the other. We are all human. And we all have our challenges and our weaknesses. ‘When you deny, reject, avoid, or resist the true nature of your partner in any way, you start to make up things about how the other ‘should’ be, only to be disappointed when your own expectation is not met,’ says the guru. HAHA. Well, that's strange. People are as they are and they do what they do because they are who they are. No one is perfect, no one is entirely bad. Just because someone lets out a loud fart, makes a mess, or drools in their sleep, does that mean that person cannot be loved, appreciated, and honored? Too often, women get caught up in who their partner is NOT, while forgetting the value of who their partner is.
