Habits between the sheets that lead to worse sex

Not every sex party can be a fireworks show, but we love to try. Do you really want to keep it sparkling in bed? Then remove these ‘bad’ habits from your routine.

Only giving/taking
It's really nice when someone shows you all the corners of the bedroom or vice versa, but it's never fun when one of the two is already doing ‘the work’. Switch the roles around. In good sex, there is a good balance between giving and taking. No, not everything has to be on the scale, but you know what they say: sharing is caring. Take the initiative and try these sexy bedroom games.

Insecurity
Many people have certain insecurities about their bodies. Love handles, dimples, a weird mole, or a crooked toe, you name it. Make sure you don't focus on these under the sheets. When your mind is on your insecurities, you can't fully let go. Let it go!

Not being in the moment
Your imperfections are not the only thing your thoughts can drift towards. Not staying in the moment is detrimental to good sex. It brings stress with it and you lose your focus. Because of this, you can write your orgasm off. A good way to ‘stay on track’ is by coming together. This way, you work towards a moment together.

Mind reading
You can't expect your partner to know on their own that you really enjoy a massage or kisses on your neck. Don't be afraid to say what you like and especially ask your partner as well. Furthermore, it's always a good idea to make it clear when he or she has found the right spot... Yes, baby!

Giving up
It is what it is: for most women, an orgasm takes longer. So don't give up right away if you don't come quickly enough. Patience is a virtue and you also deserve your orgasm. Take a look at our orgasm guide ‘Are you coming too?’.

No aftercare
You roll away from each other, clean yourself up, and then? Do you grab your phone again to scroll through TikTok? Come on... Don't forget to show some love after the lovemaking. You call that afterplay or aftercare. Nice cuddling, stroking, and talking about the day. That's wonderful.