People say: ‘This is why I never cry’

This really doesn't apply to me at all, because — especially when I'm alone — I can start crying quite quickly. It can also quickly lead to the ugly crying situation, by the way. Especially when a Disney movie is put on or a film like Hachi; just the thought of that makes me really upset. But there is of course another group, the group that can't be made to cry. I always find that a very fascinating thing, precisely because I am the opposite myself. It must come from somewhere, I always think.

Well, as always, Reddit has an answer for it. Or answers, I can better say. In the topic ‘People who don’t cry easily, how?’ a lot of reasons were mentioned.

1. ‘Emotional exhaustion. If life has thrown enough shit at you for a very long time, your tears are really gone at some point.’

2. ‘Pure, unadulterated apathy.’

3. ‘I’m just not an emotional individual at the core. I laugh and cry, but there is a certain threshold of emotions that I have to cross to activate that.’

4. ‘The other side of the coin is that you’re also not very easily very happy, it has to do with being emotionally muted (at least that’s what I call it).’

5. ‘A trauma from my childhood taught me that it’s best not to cry or to cry only behind closed doors and not tell anyone.’

6. ‘My father always got really angry when I had negative emotions. He decided that was unacceptable, so I learned to hide them.’

7. ‘I simply don’t have the need to cry.’

8. ‘Crying in front of others is a sign of weakness. That’s at least what my mind tells me and that’s how I feel about it. I’m in therapy for that now.’

9. ‘To be very honest, my emotions just don’t work like they should and I just don’t know how to show them.’

10. ‘Like an old vending machine: the light may be out, but I still work in principle.’

11. ‘For me, it’s very peculiar: take me to a funeral and I’m okay, take me to a Pixar movie and the dams are broken.’