The 5 things that are not done when you are a guest at a wedding
The wedding season is a bit late this year, but the wedding enthusiasts are already eager. September and October are filling up with (hopefully) yes words. But what is allowed when you are a guest and what is absolutely not?
1. Everything white or almost white
A cream-colored jumpsuit in sight? Preferably not. A flame-red ensemble? Keep looking. Everything (almost) white and red can distract attention from the bride or groom, and that's usually not what you want. Did you know that it is also common in certain countries to marry in red? Black is often labeled as unfriendly and not okay, but that can be fine in consultation with the couple.
2. Showing up uninvited
In the Netherlands, it is still quite common, however unfriendly it may be, to be invited for parts of the day. Yes to the ceremony, no to the dinner, and yes again to the party. Yes to the drinks, no to the yes word. Only at the party. This is not for nothing. So do not overlook the wish of the couple regarding when they would like to see you and when not. I once saw a bride in panic because someone suddenly decided to join for dinner. First of all, it costs a pretty penny, and where on earth do you fit that chair in? It does sound very unwelcoming indeed, but it is very Dutch. Oh, and showing up when you are not invited is also never appreciated.
3. Giving something they don’t want to receive
This week a card landed on the mat stating that presence is the greatest gift, but if you still want to give something, a contribution for the honeymoon would be nice. So, of course, you don’t show up with a hand blender, because what are you going to do with a hand blender in the Maldives? Just go for a closed envelope if that makes them happy.
4. Leaving your RSVP until the last minute
Here, brides and grooms panic, or at least one of the two wedding enthusiasts. Waiting until the last moment to let someone know whether you are coming is rude. Especially if the drinks need to be paid for.
5. Blasting everything on social media
Sharing is caring, right? Not in the case of fresh babies and weddings. It happens more often than not that the whole world posts the couple on social media while they haven't even seen themselves in the photo yet. Wait to share suits, dresses, champagne, or parties until the couple has seen themselves and posted something online. By the way, there are also many couples these days who prefer to keep such things to themselves.
