The roles reversed: this is everything you need to know about pegging
Pegging, or when a woman penetrates her boyfriend with a strap-on: you may have heard of it, perhaps from the hit series The Bold Type? It's high time for the ins and outs. In this article, LotteLust tells you everything you need to know about pegging.
What is pegging?
Unlike ‘average’ heterosexual sex where the woman is penetrated by her partner, the roles in pegging are reversed. The man allows himself to be anally penetrated by his girlfriend, usually with a strap-on dildo. In 2021, we like to color outside the lines, so don't be ashamed if you want to try this. It seems to be becoming increasingly popular. Pegging has even appeared in films and series like Deadpool, Shameless, Broad City, and The Bold Type.
Why is this so pleasurable for men? Through the anus, you can stimulate the prostate, or the P-spot. The P-spot is a sensitive spot that is comparable to the G-spot in women. During anal sex, you can hit the prostate, which is very pleasurable and can lead to an orgasm.
For some (hetero) men, there is still a taboo surrounding pegging, as they fear it detracts from their ‘masculinity’. That makes no sense, because enjoying anal play and feeling masculine are completely unrelated. There is not one way to have sex, and pegging is just another way to discover what you enjoy. Nothing wrong with that!
Precautions
Anal sex is not something you want to do on a whim, especially not for beginners. There are some precautions that you want to take beforehand.
To start, personal hygiene is quite essential when you are going to engage in anal play. It remains a risky area, and you certainly don't want any accidents during pegging. Fortunately, cleaning your anus is really not rocket science, and if you don't eat anything strange that day and have a bowel movement a few hours before sex and shower well, the chance of embarrassing situations is really very small.
It's also good to think about what kind of toy you would prefer to use. There are quite a few options. You can decide together with your partner what you prefer or surprise each other in the heat of the moment. A butt plug or strap-on... Plenty of choices. Just make sure the toy has a ‘stop’ so it doesn't disappear into his backside...
Do keep in mind to work hygienically, you know why.
The first time anal
If this is the first time you are trying pegging with someone, it is wise to take as much time as possible for it. Like we said: anal is not something you can just do casually. And importantly: make sure you have your partner's consent. You can start by fingering or rimming your partner, just to get used to the sensation. If he enjoys it, you can gradually go further.
Pro tip: the key to pleasurable anal sex is to relax your body as much as possible. It may feel a bit uncomfortable and strange at first, but it will definitely get better if you relax. You gotta relax!
Want to know more about this topic? You can read about 4 good positions for pegging on LotteLust.nl.
