Couples argue on average 49 minutes a day
Are you a bit fed up with your partner's head again? You are not alone.
Whine whine
It's really not that crazy, because couples argue quite a bit in a day, research shows. On average, most couples bicker for 49 minutes a day, researchers state. Of course, it's not always a fierce or intense argument, but a bit of back-and-forth grumbling? Everyone can relate to that. Especially when the couple has children at home, those 49 minutes are easily reached. Because why does he never do the laundry? Why does she just let the kids climb on the table? There's always something to complain about. And we all do that en masse. An average of 312 times a year, with our soulmate.
Also funny: we argue most often with our partner on a Thursday, at eight o'clock in the evening.
Not too long
According to experts, an argument with your partner should not last too long. A bit of discussion keeps a person sharp and is really not that bad for the relationship. Think of exciting make-up sex. A study led by scientist Joseph Grenny even shows that couples who occasionally argue or discuss have ten times more chance of being happy than couples who don't talk about anything and thus never argue. But you should never let it escalate. A bit of nagging at each other should last a maximum of ten minutes at a time (and that means about five times a day).
Really something to complain about
Here's the thing: “There is a difference between really arguing and discussing in a healthy way,” says the relationship therapist to Elite Daily. “In discussions that last longer than ten minutes, the focus is often on winning. If you discuss in a constructive way, it’s more about trying to understand each other.” And you know yourself: if the argument lasts much longer than ten minutes, it’s probably about something serious and not about the question of who should load the dishwasher. “For example, if you argue because one of the partners has cheated, then the argument will last longer than if you’re bickering about walking the dog.” Well. That’s true. So keep it short and concise, no longer than 49 minutes a day, and you’re good to go.
Source: The Daily Mail
