The happiest couples argue 7 times a week
Is everything always sweet and cute at your home? Never a fierce argument with your lover? That's not good. Because fighting would be good for your relationship, according to experts. It has indeed been proven in a little study: some thunderclouds in the relationship are really good.
At least 7 times
The couples who had at least 7 heated discussions per week were actually the happiest. The couples who never had a discussion were actually less happy together. If you simply say what you have to say, you are ultimately more honest with each other. You indicate what is important to you in life and your partner does the same. You show yourself in the relationship and that is very important in the long run.
But there are certain things that happy couples do differently than others when they argue. For example, they let the other person finish speaking, both share their story, and listen to each other. Just take a look sincerely in the mirror. This is how psychologists say you can best argue with your partner:
- Listen to the other person, let them finish speaking
- Share your own story
- Keep it to the here and now: don’t bring up old issues
- Look for a compromise
- Keep the argument between you and don’t share everything with friends
- Give it some time and talk again after a night’s sleep
- Admit it when you’re wrong (you know it yourself)
- Accept and forgive, and also just say sorry for your behavior. And then kiss and that’s it.
Just do it
Ultimately, no relationship is perfect, not even yours. And arguing is part of it. Suddenly sharing your life with the same person, day in and day out, in any life stage: that’s no small thing. You change and your partner changes too. It’s not strange that sometimes, well, you get fed up with each other. Let it be. Argue, grumble, shout, get angry, and cry. It’s a relief. Then you can continue with a clear sky.
Source: Bustle
