Just complaining: girlfriends who always want to be with their loved one
Before I start complaining, I want to make it clear that I wish my friends the world. I can only be happy for them when they find love. There is just one small thing that sometimes makes me less happy, and that is what I am going to complain about now. What is it with those loved ones who suddenly have to go everywhere with you? I understand very well that you need to divide your time between your friends and your partner when you get into a relationship, but that doesn't mean you always have to combine the two?
This is something I find incredibly annoying, especially when it happens without any announcement. You expect to have an evening with friends, and suddenly there is an uninvited guest at your table. Fortunately, most of my friends are not like that with their partners, but there are a few who always bring their partner along as an unwanted surprise element. Well, there you are, with six women and one man at the table. What are you going to discuss? Well, in any case, not your deepest secrets, because you have no desire for that with such an intruder around. Besides, no one in the friend group can really be themselves. Men think they are very intense and rowdy among themselves, but just listen to a conversation between six women at the table; it's at least as rough, I can tell you. It's only logical that we don't want to talk about sex with someone's partner around, right? Furthermore, it seems unpleasant for yourself if you have to hold back because your partner is sitting next to you, as no bad words are spoken about him on such an evening. When can you complain about your partner when he is by your side 24/7? Impossible, and that seems anything but healthy.
And what I perhaps find the worst is that such a partner suddenly sits on the couch when you arrange to have dinner at someone's home. Again, without any announcement. I understand that you don't just put your partner out on the street when you expect guests, but just send him to another room or let me know in advance that he is also home, then I will come another time. Often, these kinds of men are also those pests who eavesdrop on all your conversations.
Well, the big question is of course: what can be done about this? It's a painful subject because you don't want to offend the great love of someone dear to you. So you have to approach it smartly and especially kindly. For example, let them know in advance that you really want to discuss something privately or that you simply feel a strong need to see your friend alone for a moment. You can also suggest in advance to have dinner with the partner present, but then afterwards have a drink together just the two of you. It’s really about communicating this in a nice way, then there’s little that can go wrong.
