Friends with benefits complicated? With these three golden tips, it will definitely succeed.

Do you just want sex without a relationship? It's not that simple. Because before you know it, you find yourself in a difficult situation with awkward moments, tears, and emotions.

Friends with benefits is definitely not just something for men; women can want it too. Simply because at this moment in your life, you don't feel like settling down. Fortunately, research has been done on this, and you really want to know.

Being nice
In the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, scientists published their research, in which they asked 171 students about their fwb: friends with benefits. They asked what they felt and how happy they were with the fact that they had sex but no relationship. According to a researcher, it makes the whole picture a great success if you invest in the relationship you have with each other, just like you do in a friendship. Just show interest, be nice. ‘It shows a high degree of investment. When people put more effort into the casual relationship, there is less struggle or conflict than friends with benefits who do not. It's really about the same effort that you put into a friendship,’ it was said.

Stick to this
In other words: you can perfectly continue no strings attached while sharing the bed with each other. But if you want to do it right, make it a nice friendship. ‘Casual sex relationships are not necessarily a replacement for romantic relationships, but are a romantic relationship in themselves.’ Maybe not with all the obligations like going to in-laws and going on vacation together, but you still have to take each other into account. The three golden tips for the best friends with benefits are:

1. Be nice, as if it's your best friend

2. Express expectations and be on the same wavelength

3. If you develop feelings and want a serious relationship with that person, you need to be honest about it

Only if you stick to this will it become a success that you both can enjoy. And look, a little flirting (do we still say that in 2021?) is allowed. It's also nice sometimes: loose and free, but still intimacy. But you want to feel good with someone, and therefore, you should be able to talk about your feelings. As soon as those feelings lean towards a relationship, it's time to lay your cards on the table. Who knows, the other person might feel the same way, and if not, it's better to know that before you lose your whole heart.

Source: Springer