10 little lies about love that we are no longer allowed to tell each other

This piece is about the reassuring words we say to our friends or that we hear when we find ourselves in unpleasant love situations. I call it the little lies for the best. Because as a good friend, it is of course your job to reassure, but often this comes with comfortable little lies. Personally, I would just prefer to hear the truth. Below, I will list the most common lies.

1. ‘He/She will definitely respond to your message.’

This is the biggest nonsense ever, especially when you have been ignored for a few days. And when you do hear something after those few days, there is most likely not much interest. Someone who likes you responds right away.

2. ‘He/She probably doesn't spend much time on his/her phone.’

That can indeed be true, because I also hate texting. But when I like someone, I respond immediately and I expect the same in return. In the beginning stage, that is, once in a relationship, all that texting is no longer necessary.

3. ‘He/She really wouldn't do that to you.’

When someone has cheated hundreds of times in the past and your friend keeps saying that he/she has really changed now. Some people just don't change, so don't support your friend in that.

4. ‘He/She is distancing themselves to protect themselves.’

I just always have to laugh hard at this. People who claim to like you so much that they really need to take some distance from you. Do you believe it yourself?

5. ‘He/She is not ready for a relationship yet.’

Are we ever ready for a relationship? If you are in love with someone, don't you just want to be together? If not, then I fear he/she doesn't like you enough.

6. ‘He/She is probably just very busy.’

Too busy for you then. Isn't that already the end of the story? You can't get away with this weak excuse with me. You make time.

7. ‘He/She has commitment issues.’

That may all be true, but then it is high time to pack your bags. This should absolutely not serve as reassurance or as a free pass.

8. ‘He/She doesn't dare to ask you out.’

In other words: he/she has no interest at all and that's why you are not asked out.

9. ‘It might be going a bit too fast for him/her.’

If you like each other, it can't go fast enough. That just happens naturally. If someone thinks it's going too fast, make sure you get away.

10. ‘He/She is just playing hard to get.’

No, no, he/she is not interested enough. And do people even still do this? No one wants this, right?