Is going to bed together the key to a good relationship?

Going to bed together is my favorite moment of the day. I really sound like a boring homebody now, but I mean it. A little chat about the day, no more outside stimuli, and completely in relaxation mode together. Often, I still give a performance before going to sleep. And no, not a kind of sexy dance, but an opera piece or something else that I find hilarious and that my partner is then obliged to watch. On the other hand, it seems terrible to me if you go to bed alone every night because your loved one is still watching a series on the couch for hours. Isn't that very unsociable?

If this last scenario is the case in your relationship, then I would quickly do something about it. Because going to bed together is not only much cozier, it is also better for your relationship and your sex life. According to an American study by the Gottman Institute, couples who go to bed at the same time have a better bond. This study involved 289 American adults who were married or living together, who were asked about their nighttime routines. It emerged that couples who go to bed together (even if they engage in different activities) experience more connection with their loved one.

I can completely understand this. We probably all lead busy lives, different from our partner, which means we are not together during the day. And thankfully so, otherwise we would go crazy. But if you also have a different sleep schedule in the evening, then you are completely living past each other, right? That moment together before going to sleep is really very valuable to me. It is the perfect moment for a good conversation, to watch something together, and not to forget: for sex. According to clinical psychologist Wendy Troxel, going to bed together is the most important part of the day. ’This time is meant for cuddling and talking about your relationship, future plans, work, school, or just simply chatting.‘

Long story short: matching sleep rhythms lead to more physical and emotional intimacy, which in turn leads to a better relationship and sex life. Well, this seems like enough reason to get off that couch a little earlier. And do you really want or need to go to bed later? Then cozy up your loved one for a moment, so you still have a little time together.

Sources: flair, womenshealth, gottman.com