Love & Sex

Waxplay: playing with candle wax for advanced users

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For a romantic mood, we like to light the candles in the bedroom. But did you know that the burning sticks can do a lot for romance, but can also create a lot of tension? Get to know wax play: a sexy game where you play with candle wax.

Why wax play?
Wax play is a very sensual way of foreplay and therefore a perfect ending to a special date night. It is a BDSM game where you let liquid candle wax drip onto your partner's body. Or the other way around, of course: your partner drips candle wax onto your skin. Due to the high temperature of the wax, there is a slight pain and shock effect when the hot wax touches the skin.

Special candles
No worries, if you use special BDSM candles, you won't get burns. These candles have a lower melting point and are therefore less hot. You can use wax from regular candles, but make sure to let it cool down a bit. And test the wax on your own skin before you start.

For beginners, massage candles are also very suitable. They not only smell wonderful, but they have an even later melting point than BDSM candles and are therefore extra safe and painless. As a cherry on top, they have a nourishing effect and make the skin nice and soft.

Do’s and don’ts
Before you start experimenting with wax play, it's smart to prepare well.

  • To make it easier to remove the wax afterwards, apply body oil or lotion to your skin beforehand.
  • Be careful with flammable products in the room, think of alcohol and hairspray.
  • (A little) pain is not pleasant for everyone. Therefore, discuss the pain threshold and carefully choose the type of candle. Are you going for safe with a massage candle or are you pushing the limits with a BDSM candle? Never ‘surprise’ your partner with hot wax on the skin. Always test the temperature on your own hand.
  • Agreeing on a safe word can also be handy. If you are engaged in a (BDSM) game, words like ‘stop’ and ‘ouch’ can be confusing because they can be part of the game.
  • Proceed calmly and sensually. Drip small amounts onto your partner's skin. Start at the least sensitive area and work your way to the most sensitive area. NOTE: stay away from the genitals. Hot wax on the clitoris or penis is no fun, believe me.