Things you recognize when you're sometimes tired of being extroverted

I recognize it: in a group, I am often the life of the party. I make a fuss. I order that bottle of wine too much, dance first on the table, and play the best hits.

The chatty sun at home.

That's just how it is: I am an extrovert person. I get energy from being with other people. But even extroverted people can get tired and overstimulated from always being social. From all those appointments, maintaining all those friendships. From always having to be the life of the party. Because that role is unique, super fun, but sometimes also exhausting. Sometimes it's just nice when others take the lead.

And so you probably recognize this too, if you see yourself as an extroverted person: 

1. You also have introverted days
Sometimes you need your own series, your favorite food on the couch, and silence. Rest. No apps and no calls.

2. You sometimes feel the pressure of always having to be fun
Because you are the mood maker in your friend group and know how to throw a great party, that is also always expected of you. Those expectations create pressure and that can sometimes be too much. Then you don't feel like it and you drop out.

3. You find others a bit boring quickly
Honestly? Just because you are so social and tell the funniest, juiciest stories, you sometimes find others a bit boring. Too tame. Too quiet. Too ordinary. You are just that little bit extra, but you don't find that in all your friendships. That's okay: it actually creates a good balance.

4. Your best friends are also extroverted
That works well: your very best friends are also those party makers with whom it is always just a bit too much, with whom you chat for hours and are never awkward.

5. You are looking for a partner who is calmer
But because you like to be in the spotlight, a partner who is a bit quieter is a nice goal. Balance, right? You might as well not both scream for attention.

6. You are quickly insecure socially
Another thing about extroverts: you are quicker to feel insecure socially. That comes from wanting to be liked: you want to be the most popular in the group. You often are, but sometimes you are not. And then it stings: you find it hard to handle criticism or comments. When it comes to your friendships, you invest a lot of time in them, precisely because you are afraid of losing friends otherwise.