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The 5 questions you need to answer if you have doubts about your partner

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Have you been doubting for months about breaking up with your partner? Or are you just curious if the person you are with right now is really the right one for you? Then it’s time to take a really critical look at your loved one. And you can do this by answering the following questions for yourself. If your answer is not ‘yes’ to every question, see this as your sign to leave that person behind once and for all. And this time for real, okay? Deal.

Do you take it as a compliment when someone says you look a lot like your partner?
If your partner is manipulative, distant, unsympathetic, and selfish, you’re not going to convince me that you would see it as something positive if someone said to you: ‘Wow, you and your partner are really the same kind of person.’ No, just no. I would almost feel offended if someone compared me to my ex.

Do you feel genuinely happy or are you just less lonely?
A classic, this question. And yet it always comes down to this. Are you too afraid to just leave your partner because you’re scared of being alone and having to go through the whole ordeal again with someone else? This is a brain teaser, you know. Unless, of course, you’re in a healthy relationship.

Can you be completely yourself or do you feel the need to present yourself differently to please your partner?
Being yourself seems so obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people secretly have to hold back in their relationship. An example: I once had a friend who wasn’t allowed to curl up on the couch in her pajamas on the weekends. She had to be dressed and ready at all times according to her then-boyfriend, which meant that a messy bun and no makeup were an absolute no-go. You get it: that’s an example of how it shouldn’t be.

Are you in love with your partner for who he/she is or are you in love with their good side, their potential, or the idea of that person in your head?
Here I come again with the most obvious statement ever: love is blind. Sorry not sorry. Sometimes the person in front of you is just not that great; you probably made them special in your head. You fell in love with the ideal image you had of that person, but in reality, it turned out to be a bit disappointing. It happens.

Would you be okay if your future or imaginary child dated someone like your partner?
If your current partner does everything that makes you happy: go you. Then you probably wouldn’t want anything more. But I can hardly imagine that you would actually be okay with your child dating someone who would treat him or her like a second choice.

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