These are the questions you should ask if you really want to get to know someone well.

People who are fans of deep conversation, pay attention! Research shows that you really get to know someone when you know everything about their hopes, fears, and dreams. Just think about it: you probably don’t know what your hairdresser’s biggest fear is, while you do know what goal your sister dreams about every day. I’m not saying that you should put your neighbor or your hairdresser on the spot with a dozen of these difficult questions, but if you have someone in your life that you really want to get to know, ask them the following questions:

1. What is your top priority in life?
2. What is your best advice on how to deal with failure?
3. How do you motivate yourself when you feel stuck?
4. What is a flaw you see in yourself that you are currently working on?
5. What is something that scares you but you do anyway?
6. Do you see yourself living somewhere else in the future? Where and why this place?
7. What is a mistake you made in the past that you learned from?
8. What have you achieved that you are extremely proud of?
9. What are you most afraid of?
10. How have your goals or dreams changed over time?

It is important to take your time for the good conversation that will undoubtedly come from these questions. It’s not easy to just throw your fears, hopes, and dreams on the table. This list is ideal to work through with your partner or a good friend while enjoying a glass of wine, a nice snack, and a whole evening ahead. Bet that after answering these questions, you will feel closer to each other?

Source: Very well mind | Image: Saeed Adyani / Netflix