These are the signs that you are in a delusionship
We have already discussed this extensively situationships and that you would rather avoid it with a big U-turn. But it can get a bit worse by getting yourself tangled up in a delusionship. The name speaks for itself: a non-existent relationship that only exists in your own imagination. And although research has shown that being delusional makes you more successful in business, unfortunately, that is not the case in the wonderful world of dating.
In in a delusionship you idealize the person in question because you think you know exactly how they are through social media. There is a chance that you have never actually spoken to this person or that a few messages have been exchanged here and there, but there is no real contact or relationship. Let's just call it a crush that has gotten out of hand. If this gets so out of hand that you find yourself daydreaming about someone who barely knows you exist during your work 25/7, then the following points will undoubtedly sound familiar to you.
1. The conversation always comes from you
Initiative from the other person: none. You have to start every conversation, and it’s still questionable whether you’ll get a response within a day. Interest is only shown from your side, and every given answer consists of less than three words. In other words: without you, there would not have been a conversation at all. Painful but true.
2. There is no intimacy
Although you probably go to bed every night with the fantasy in your head, in reality, very little has come of it. No kiss, no touch, nothing, nada, zip.
3. The conversations are superficial
The chemistry does not radiate during your chats; it’s about as dry as the Sahara. Humor is hard to find, let alone a tiny spark of flirting. The conversation remains very correct, which means you still don’t get a clear picture of how that person really is.
4. You only talk online
Outside of the online conversation, you have never met in real life. Not that it’s a problem: every love story has to start somewhere, but if after a month you still don’t have a date planned, it really becomes a problem.
5. You are only focused on how it could be
Ahhh, the what-if theory. Often this just happens automatically, and you can’t help but imagine how it would be if you ended up happily ever after. However, you must remain realistic and ask yourself if that perfect picture in your head is actually achievable.
6. You know that they don’t want a relationship
If the other person has explicitly stated that there is no relationship and that there will never be one between the two of you in the future, it’s just a lost cause. Accept it and move on. If you can’t do this and continue to fantasize, then it becomes a bit delusional.
Source: poosh.com & theknot.com
