Dating Disasters: ‘My first date with a woman was an instant disaster’
In Dating Disasters vertellen anonieme lezers over hun gênantste, meest tenenkrommende en dramatische dates. Deze week: ‘Wow!’
I still remember my first date with a woman very well. I was incredibly nervous. Until that day, I had only dated men, and although I was interested in women, I never dared to take the step. Until I met Sanne on a dating app. We hadn't talked much before we made plans. I had promised myself that I would plan a date with her as soon as possible so that I wouldn't back out.
On the day of the date, I was in a complete state. I was flying around my house like a nervous wreck before it was time to go. Upon arriving at the agreed place, I recognized her immediately and breathed a sigh of relief: she looked exactly like her photos. However, that relief was short-lived, as I soon realized that I was the one who had to lead this conversation.
Normally, I don't mind that, but this was such a new experience for me that I would have liked to ride a bit on the enthusiasm of my date. Unfortunately, she (I think) felt the same way, because from the moment we sat down, not a word came out. Except for one. Because every time it seemed like she was going to say something, she looked awkwardly into the distance and said: ‘Wow…’. The first time I had to laugh, I thought she was making a joke. In hindsight, I really wished she was making a joke, because she made me more uncomfortable than I had ever felt. This habit repeated itself all evening like a broken record, and I had no idea how to respond to it.
Of course, I tried to get to know her better, but every attempt at a serious conversation was overshadowed by an awkward ‘wow…’ between her minimal words. I still wonder if she might have been shy, just not interested, or if this is a genuine tic of hers. If the latter is the case, it might have been helpful if she had said something about it.
We never spoke again, but thanks to Sanne, I know how important it is to talk a little longer before going on a date. By the way, I haven't lost my dating skills with women, and to be honest, every date after Sanne has been so much better that I am actually very grateful to her for her quirky tic.
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Image: Netflix ‘The Bold Type’
