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Discovering if you are bi (+ tips)

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No one bats an eye when girlfriends are making out during a night out. We generally find it more normal for women to be close and touchy with their friends. But how do you know if you really have bisexual feelings? What if you want more than just a kiss for fun and you actually feel attracted to women? For young women who are curious about their sexual orientation, exploring bisexuality can be incredibly exciting. Tip 1 from LotteLust: Take the time to get to know yourself and be proud of who you are!

Reflect on your feelings and desires
An important first step in discovering your sexual identity is reflecting on your feelings and desires. It may sound a bit airy-fairy, but try to take a moment to think about what you feel and what stimuli evoke certain feelings. Pay attention to the attraction you feel, both emotionally and sexually, towards people of different genders. You might discover that you feel equal attraction to certain men and women.

Talk to your besties
Whether you want to admit it or not, your best friends sometimes know you better than you know yourself. It can be very helpful to have open conversations with your friends, family members, or professional counselors if you feel the need. Sharing your thoughts and feelings can help you organize your thoughts and explore different perspectives. What is also very important is the affirmation that you are not alone. By talking about it, you find out that many more people than you expected have struggled with their sexuality. These celebrities are all queer, for example.

Learn about bisexuality
Try to read more about bisexuality or look up people on TikTok who share their experiences. By learning more about it, you can better understand and place your own feelings. This way, you learn to have a broader view of bisexuality. It could also be that you are pansexual. Read this article on LotteLust for a clear overview of the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality.

Explore your sexuality
Exploring your sexuality can be an important part of discovering whether you are bisexual. You don't have to experiment with others right away; it's more about consciously exploring your own desires, fantasies, and preferences. This can be done through self-reflection, masturbation, watching porn, or reading erotic stories.

Take your time
Discovering and accepting your sexual identity is a process that takes time. Be patient with yourself and give yourself the space to grow and learn. It's okay if you don't have all the answers right away. Trust your own feelings and don't be afraid to be yourself, even if you are still developing.

Discovering your sexual identity is and remains a unique and personal journey. It will be different for everyone, and that is perfectly normal. Be proud of who you are, embrace your sexuality, and always be loving and respectful to yourself and others.