Dating

9 signs that your date is not relationship material

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If you are very honest with yourself, you really know what you are looking for and not looking for in a relationship. But if your date shows sneaky behavior that you are not very happy with, you would rather let it pass in silence than do something about it. Smart to protect your feelings in the short term, but killing for your situationship in the long term. Don't know exactly how you or your date feels about it? If you can cross off a few things from the following list, it could mean that your date is not relationship material.

You are in love with the idea of the other
If you desire the status of a relationship more than the unique qualities of the person, you risk trying to create a spark that isn't there. Repeat after me: you can really be better off alone than with the person who is just not quite right.

You feel insecure
Insecurity can mercilessly dampen the spark in a relationship. If you constantly have to hold back or cannot be your full self, this may indicate a lack of trust and comfort. Your relationship should be a safe place, not a situation where you have to prove yourself all the time.

You can't get over discussions
The ability to get back on the same page after a discussion or argument is crucial for a healthy relationship. Do you notice that you just stay angry at each other? Then you are not going to be happy in the long term.

You are more touchy outside than at home
Everything for the outside world; I had a boyfriend like that too. In public, we seemed like the happiest couple on earth, at home we each lay on our own couch. Nice for the picture, but it doesn't do you any good.

You keep hoping something will change
If you stay in the relationship because you hope the other will change, it's time to leave. Love should not depend on future changes that are unlikely to happen. Sure, people can change, but not very much in a short time.

You don't trust your date
Red flag number one. What do you have if you can't trust each other? It's your relationship, not an episode of De Verraders.

You see a future together, but it doesn't make you happy
A future together should excite you. Maybe even make you a little nervous because it's just exciting to decide to tackle life together. But feeling unhappy when you think about your shared future? That's not an indication of a strong relationship.

You don't have a friendship
A strong friendship is the foundation of a healthy relationship. We all grow old, wrinkled, and saggy, but with your best friend by your side, you can handle anything.

You actually don't agree on anything
How exhausting is it to be in constant conflict? If your norms and values are so far apart that you can't agree on anything, then it's really time to look further. I once tried to build a relationship with someone with whom I only had my favorite wine in common, and take it from me: you don't want that.

Have you become curious about all the signs that indicate your date is indeed ready for a relationship? The answer to that question you can read here.

Source: The Every Girl | Image: Netflix