These are the most commonly used excuses of cheaters
Now that we have debunked the much-discussed myths about cheating, there are of course still many questions about unfaithful (ex-)partners. Why do people actually cheat? How do you get over such betrayal? And perhaps more importantly: what flimsy excuses should you watch for if you suspect your partner is cheating? Fortunately, finding that answer is not made too difficult for us. Research shows that people who cheat are not only very sneaky but also have a serious lack of creativity, often rotating the following excuses. Yes, as a partner, you have little to say about that. For cheaters, working late is an ideal excuse to stay away from home a little longer; they can endlessly expand this excuse with a: 'this way I earn more money' or a 'I'm doing this for us', making you feel guilty when you bring it up. Quite sad, really.
Overworking
Drinks with colleagues.
Another excuse that you can do nothing with. If your partner wants to go for drinks with colleagues after work, you’re not going to make a fuss about it, right? If you do, you’ll probably be labeled as that nagging girlfriend who never lets her partner have fun. You don’t want that, so you just say nothing.
Being too drunk to remember anything.
Personally, I think this is the dumbest excuse ever when you confront someone about their (possible) unfaithful actions. Aren't you an 18-year-old who doesn't know how much alcohol is in a drink? And if your partner was really too drunk to remember anything from the evening, that might actually be an even bigger turn-off than cheating itself. Grow up a bit.
The 'no idea why that person is texting me' story.
Another classic. I don’t know about you, but if someone keeps texting me, I generally know why that is, and it often comes from me continuing to respond. Not knowing why someone keeps texting you is, as far as I’m concerned, equivalent to not knowing why you keep gaining weight while you drove through the McDrive three times last week (guilty). Nonsense, really.
Staying over at a friend's place.
Difficult to debunk, especially if the friend in question plays along. Extremely uncool, of course, and I really hope karma doesn’t forget such people, but this really happens. I heard about someone who goes on vacation once a year with his group of friends (mostly consisting of occupied men), where they spend a week partying via Tinder while all lying to each other's partners that it was a very tame vacation. Disgusting.
You’re just paranoid.
Ah, the old-fashioned finger-pointing when you (rightly) suspect something. This is something that only the sneakiest cheaters are good at. I once found out that my ex had met up with another woman behind my back and had also kissed her. When I confronted him about it, I got the response: 'You’re seriously crazy in your head, go seek help.' He probably didn’t even know at that moment that the whole scene was recorded. Anyway, one of us two could indeed benefit from some help, but it’s definitely not me!
Man and woman discussing relationship cheating on the couch
Source: Bustle | Image: Netflix
