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Single men tell: this is what we look for on a dating app

By Sophie Rietmulder | #!31Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +0200+02:003031#31Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +0200+02:00-2Europe/Amsterdam3131Europe/Amsterdam202331 18pm31pm-31Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +0200+02:002Europe/Amsterdam3131Europe/Amsterdam2023312023Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +02000020010pmWednesday=9#!31Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam10#10-18-2023#!31Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +0200+02:003031#/31Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +0200+02:00-2Europe/Amsterdam3131Europe/Amsterdam202331#!31Wed, 18 Oct 2023 14:00:30 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam10#

One of the biggest mysteries of life seems to be the contents of the mind of the single man. ‘What do they actually want?’ was one of the questions that was guaranteed to come up during every Friday afternoon drinks with my single friends. Completely convinced that they probably didn't know either, we always let it go. Now the truth seems to lie somewhere in the middle, as TikToker Joey Soboleski recently revealed what those single men actually want. And especially when it comes to what they pay attention to while swiping on a dating app. Want to join in?

1. You have something in common
What men seem to look for first (after a physical attraction has been established) is a common interest between you that gives hope for a date and ultimately a long-term relationship.

2. There is variety in your photos
Apparently, there is nothing more attractive than being drawn to someone's face. Makes sense, since you'll often have to look at it when you start dating someone. Good close-up photos equal more matches. Also, show your personal style. This makes you stand out among the rest of the hopeful singles and adds personality to your profile. Lastly, it's important to showcase your hobbies (as long as it has nothing to do with a fishing rod and a fish). Showing that you have your own interests (and thus your own life) is super attractive to your future date.

3. Don't be a catfish
Typical catfish signals are Snapchat filters and only posting photos where friends are also present. Clearly edited photos are also a no-go, as someone cannot assess who they are actually going on a date with. Simply show who you really are. The right person will love that version of you the most.

4. Cropped exes
Clearly cropping your ex out of a photo is apparently also a big turn-off, as it gives the impression that you just got out of a relationship and your match might think they are a rebound for you. Who's going to tell them that we probably just thought we looked good in that photo and that posting that snapshot has nothing to do with our ex?

5. Cookie jarring
I wrote about it recently, but watch out for cookie jarring. Treating your match as simply one of your options does not make you more attractive. Open yourself up and don't take forever to respond. This can cause you to lose your match just as quickly as you got them.

6. Negativity
A lot of whining and complaining doesn't exactly sound like the start of a romance that makes your heart race. Although, maybe from irritation. Try to radiate positivity and don't bombard your match right away with complaints about your colleague who has never heard of personal space. That's what your friends are for.

Source: Poosh