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Smartphone & sex

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The smartphone is no longer something we can imagine living without. We all use it and we use it for several hours a day. Yet, it is often advised not to take your beloved iPhone to bed. Phones in the bedroom are said to cause you to pay less attention to your partner and vice versa. Is this really true or are there ways in which your phone can actually contribute to an exciting and enjoyable sex life?

Attention and connection

The importance of attention and connection in the bedroom should not be underestimated. With your phone at hand, you are quickly distracted by notifications and to be honest: you often scroll longer than you would like to admit. the LotteLust-TikTok We give you tips to focus more on each other in the bedroom instead of on your phone.

Tip 1: Phone-free zone
Make the bedroom a phone-free zone, especially if you plan to be intimate. Keep your phone out of reach or completely outside the room so you are not tempted to dive into your social media apps right away.

Tip 2: No notifications
Turn off notifications from social media, emails, and other apps so you are not disturbed during your intimate moments. On most phones, it is super easy to turn on ‘do not disturb’, so make use of that! A call from your mother or an email from your boss can quickly kill the mood.

Tip 3: Set boundaries
If your phone is an important part of your life, set boundaries with your partner about when and how you use the phone. For example, you can agree that you won't be on your phone during meals and in bed, but that you will let each other be.

Tip 4: Quality time
Emphasize that you want to take time for each other. When you express that you want to give attention to your partner, it is immediately clear why you ask the other to put the phone away.

Use it!
A bedroom without distractions is of course very romantic, but if you are ready for a bit more variety, there are also ways to use your smartphone to give your relationship and sex life a boost. Check out LotteLust's tips below.

Tip 1: Sexting
If you are not together for a while, or perhaps even for a longer period, it can be very sexy to send naughty messages to each other. Just keep in mind that if you send nude photos, there is always a chance they could leak. You hope of course that you can trust your partner, but it could also happen that someone loses a phone or that a cloud gets hacked.

Tip 2: Relationship apps
There are apps developed to promote communication and connection between partners, for example for sharing schedules, reminders, and sending sweet messages. In these apps, you receive a daily question to get to know each other better. This way, you can use technology to achieve a deeper connection with your partner.

Tip 3: Sextapes
An evening of playing pornstars is not for everyone, but it can be very exciting. Think about which position you want to film and set your phone down. Ensure flattering lighting and have fun! Make sure to handle the footage wisely and choose to watch it together once and then delete it.

Tip 4: Sexual education and inspiration
There are all kinds of educational apps and websites available that can help with sexual education and discovering new ideas and techniques to improve your sex life. The largest online platform in the Netherlands about sexuality is LotteLust.co.uk, which is filled with stories, articles, and porn. Check the website for more tips!