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The perfect bodycount

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We often say that the number of sexual partners someone has had shouldn't matter. Yet, it's a question that is often asked and we are all too curious about the answer. But what do we actually think if someone has had ‘many’ sexual partners? And: how many is many? Is it important that the number of you and your partner is somewhat close to each other or does it really not matter at all? LotteLust discussed this in this episode of THE K(L)ETSPODCAST.

On average
The number of sexual partners someone has had is of course a personal matter and the numbers can vary quite a bit. Many or few, it doesn't matter because both have their advantages. About 50 percent of the Dutch say they can count the number of sexual partners on one hand, but at the office at LotteLust the average body count is 37. What is a lot for one is completely normal for another and vice versa. There is no right or wrong. The most important thing is that everyone does what they want and that we try not to judge each other too quickly.

The more souls, the more joy
More sexual partners provide multiple different experiences. By having sex with different people, you come into contact with all kinds of preferences and bodies. This can lead to a broader knowledge of what is pleasurable and what is not. During sex, you can learn a lot from your partners. What you learn from one can be applied to another. This way, you become an experienced lover who knows how to please your partners well.

More is not necessarily better
On the other hand, it is important to emphasize that the number of sexual partners your partner has had is not the only indicator of the sex level. A high number of sexual partners does not automatically mean someone is better in bed. Similarly, a low number does not mean someone has less experience. What really matters is the willingness to communicate, to be open to each other's wishes and boundaries, and to respect the needs of the partner. Real sex skills are developed through good communication.

Intimacy over quantity
Fewer sexual partners also have their advantages. A lower number of sexual partners may mean that someone prefers to focus on longer relationships rather than short flings. This can lead to a deeper sense of intimacy and trust between you and your partner. Moreover, less experience can be an opportunity to grow and learn together. You can discover together what works for you as a couple and create your own unique sexual dynamic.

Live in the now
If you find it a difficult idea that your partner has had more sexual partners than you or if you prefer not to think about who has come before you, try to focus on the present and the future. The most important thing is what you and your partner have together now.