The signs by which you can recognize a narcissist so easily

A relationship with a narcissist: there is a lot of warning on the internet, but probably also from your surroundings. The tricky part is that narcissists are not often easy to recognize right away. Fortunately, psychologists help us with simple tips to get started: there are three points by which you can recognize a narcissist after an argument. These three ways of offering apologies are characteristic of narcissism.

1. Unable to admit to having done something wrong
Narcissists can think of themselves in two ways: amazing or incredibly bad. Therefore, they find it difficult to cope when they have done something wrong, and they tend to slip into the victim role along with corresponding excuses. ‘Oh, poor me, I didn't do it on purpose’ and that sort of thing. So be careful.

2. Not worrying about the other
When a narcissist is fully in the role of ‘poor, poor me’, that is the most important thing there is — and you play no role in that. It is expected of you that you are listening with all your attention and providing support, and if you give a counterargument, you are the one being selfish. Run away. As fast as you can.

3. Only protecting themselves
When you want to confront a narcissist about behavior you disagree with or an action you are unhappy with, a narcissist will always protect themselves. So during an argument, all attention will go to how that other person is doing, what they need, and why it is the hardest for them. And by the end of the story, you are so exhausted that you have no energy left to talk about your feelings or needs. Again: run away.

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