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This one sentence helps you get over your heartbreak

By Sophie Rietmulder | #!30Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200+02:000930#30Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200+02:00-3Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam202330 07pm30pm-30Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200+02:003Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam2023302023Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200153159pmThursday=9#!30Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam9#09-07-2023#!30Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200+02:000930#/30Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200+02:00-3Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam202330#!30Thu, 07 Sep 2023 15:15:09 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam9#

Even though I haven't felt this (thankfully) for a long time, I can still crumble in misery when I think of that heart-wrenching feeling of heartbreak. Not eating, not sleeping, uncontrollable crying at the most awkward moments; I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Fortunately, the outcome is always the same. Time naturally applies a large bandage to that sorrow, and even though it feels impossible at the peak of your heartache, eventually you will think less and less about your ex and you will start to feel better bit by bit. Advice that is absolutely useless at the moment of intense sadness. That's why I like to share that one sentence that once brought me a significant step further in the grieving process (because that's what it is) of my previous relationship.

It goes as follows: ‘You take yourself with you.’ Maybe a bit vague and airy without context, but oh so strong. Just think about it. Your relationship consisted of two people, you and your ex. That relationship also consisted of the love of two people. Now that you are apart, that doesn't just disappear. All the love, attention, time, and energy that you invested in the relationship, which allowed your time together to bloom for so long, you take with you. You are 50 percent the reason why it was such a beautiful time, and you should be proud of that. Of course, an important person has left your life and that hurts, but you are now richer in love, attention, time, and energy that you can now invest in yourself. Enjoy that and let it heal you. And someday, after a very long time, you will find the strength (and the meaning) to give all those beautiful qualities to someone else again. Truly.