Break-up weekends are the latest trend in relationships
Here we can all agree: break-ups are terrible. The endless tears, having to let go of someone you really don’t want to let go of, and the whole idea that your future shatters into a thousand irreparable pieces because of one conversation; I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Yet sometimes a breakup is the only conclusion you can draw after a period of conflict, disagreements that you can’t resolve, or the realization that you both have a very different idea of the future.
In an attempt to ease the pain of the breakup, a new trend in relationships has emerged: a break-up weekend. A weekend where you make time to consciously disconnect, say everything you still want to say to each other, and share your feelings before you both go your separate ways. This way, you could end your relationship as lovingly, equally, and peacefully as possible. Whether this would work for me, I honestly don’t know. I’ve always left before anyone finished their ‘we need to talk’, but if you and your partner both truly have peace with the breakup because you’ve, for example, grown apart, this might just work.
Are you unsure if a break-up weekend is right for you? Here are 5 reasons why you might want to skip this trend:
You love your ex, but he or she never treated you well
Yes, when it comes to break-ups, this is of course a case of: tidy up and move on. Why would you take 48 hours to lovingly end a relationship that generally wasn’t even loving? Thank you, next.
You secretly hope that a magical weekend will change your ex's mind
Don’t do this to yourself. I have been there, done that, and believe me when I say there’s nothing that will change your ex’s mind (aside from perhaps some necessary distance, but even that is no guarantee). Ending your relationship is sad enough, and if you only use your break-up weekend to postpone the inevitable or still hope for a miracle, it’s better to say goodbye right away, no matter how sad that is.
One of you is already in a relationship with someone else
Break-ups are already confusing enough without other people getting involved. If one of you has, for whatever reason, already found another partner, then you’ve made your choice and there’s no reason to keep things going further. It’s too late for that now.
You’re only doing it because your ex wants to
Agreeing to a break-up weekend out of guilt is never a good idea. Such a weekend can really only work if both people understand that breaking up is the right choice. A break-up weekend is simply a unique way of parting ways, and if you’re not both 100 percent behind it, the whole purpose is lost.
You just don’t need it
Sometimes enough has already been said, and you don’t need to stretch your breakup over an entire weekend. If you don’t feel good about the idea of a break-up weekend, then don’t do it. Simply plan your weekend differently by booking a spontaneous trip abroad à la Eat, Pray, Love (I’ve done that too, it’s not scientifically proven but take my word for it: this is truly healing for the soul). Those tears will come anyway, and you might as well be sad at a rooftop bar in Rome than at home on the couch where there’s suddenly an empty space, right? That’s what I thought.
Source: Poosh
