6 doubts in your long relationship that are actually very normal
Love is not always one big peak. It's not always sex, the scent of roses, and sharing a wine together. And it's not a party, sultry romance, a thousand kisses, and loveyous every day of the year. Much more often, it is, well, just. Being together. Without frills and fuss.
And that is actually very beautiful and a good sign, if you don't have to rely on the huge fireworks in the relationship. If you are good together, then you are good. And then there are of course doubts in your love life: are you doing ‘it’ right? Do you fit together? Doubts that are secretly completely normal. We all have them. And they mean – thank God – nothing.
1. Is this it?
If you are happy, it is a gently rippling lake and not a raging sea. That is something to be happy about, even though you might sometimes wonder if this love is enough. But it is. Trust us.
2. Are we doing it often enough?
Oh, what is often? It's more about the connection in every moment of the day, your bond, friendship, and respect for each other. That interest in each other, sharing a life, that is what matters. And sex, yes, that too. But certainly not three times in one night, when you've been together for a long time.
3. Do we share enough interests?
It's a good sign if you both like different things: that doesn't mean you don't fit together. It shows that despite the love for each other, you are also individuals, with your own hobbies, jobs, and activities. That's fine, keep it that way.
4. Will we always stay together?
Also a doubt you might recognize. But it mainly says that you are very happy, because you don't want to lose your love.
5. Are we not boring?
No, you are not boring, you are just happily married and have had those wild years. And it's okay that you are now entering a new phase. Calmer, happier, more yourself: more who you are.
6. Would it have been more fun with my ex?
No, because you often only remember the highlights of something that is over. But you didn't break up for nothing, and now you are together with your partner, in this serious relationship, as it is now. Thinking back to the past is always allowed, for a moment. But it means nothing. You are happy this way and that can last forever.
Are you enjoying each other a little extra tonight?
