These 3 relationship problems even the best therapist cannot solve for you
Imagine you are in troubled waters. You don't feel it anymore, you doubt, you want to break up. Then you might think: couples therapy can help. Our last resort. But unfortunately, that's not always the case; in some instances, even the best therapist can do nothing for you. And that's a shame, but then you know for sure.
Then you might as well choose the break-up.
These three relationship problems even the best couples therapist cannot solve for you:
1. You are too different
In, well, everything. Differences in core values, life goals, and deeply rooted beliefs that are difficult, if not impossible, to change can be a dealbreaker. You can argue about anything or you just ask about yesterday's groceries and a discussion starts. You never really agree on anything, not even in the company of friends or family. You think differently about everything. And then you can talk as much as you want on the therapist's couch, but this will remain and always stand between you.
2. There is aggression
And that is never justifiable and also never treatable. Get out if you are not treated well at home. Without any doubt. Physical or emotional abuse in a relationship is unacceptable and hard to overcome. In almost all cases, it is often better for the safety and well-being of the abused partner to end the relationship. You won't regret it.
3. There is another love
When the cookie is crumbled, it's crumbled. And if there is also a new infatuation in play, then the end is near. If your partner is in love with someone else, there is actually very little you can do. You can hope that the infatuation will pass, but then, what is left of you? What foundation is there? It means that he or she is open to others and then you know enough. That usually doesn't end well. You are good enough as you are. But no longer for this person, painful as it may be.
And yes, it is not easy to leave someone you love. You have a history together. You still share something. But in some cases, like these three, I would personally skip therapy. It saves you a lot of money that you can better invest in your divorce.
