Why it can sometimes be good to go back to your ex

Are you still not completely over him? Do you still sneak a peek at his socials and secretly can't wait to run into him somewhere? It's certainly not always bad to miss your ex or to go back to that old flame.

Some flames never really die out.

You always read that you shouldn't hit your head against the same stone twice, but let's be honest: sometimes a break-up is necessary to come back together forever. I can relate. We were young when we were together for the first time and broke up. And then we got back together. And then I was off with my bags again. No one could keep track: are they a couple or are they single? That's how it went, and it did us good. We have been happily married for years now and are parents of three beautiful children. Therefore, I believe in the fairy tale: missing your ex a lot can be good. If he misses you too, at least. Trying without each other but not really losing each other, well. Playing the love game, also checking if the grass is greener on the other side. But then that lawn seems to be quite disappointing. And then you long for that evening together on his couch. And then he suddenly sends you a message saying, ‘Will I see you soon?’. You want each other again. It was like the first time, it just clicked again... That must be true love, right?

What turns out? More than 30 percent of couples who have ever broken up get back together. So there's nothing strange about it. It can only make your relationship stronger: you know each other's weak spots and you can work on them calmly. You also know extra well what you are (again) choosing, so what commitment you are entering into.