How often should you meet after a first date

What I have never understood is that there are people who enjoy a first date. In my eyes, it is one of the most awkward situations you can find yourself in: you barely know each other, have to try to have a nice conversation based on common interests that you still need to discover, and everyone around you is probably thinking: oh, how cute, they have a first date. In short, it is a dreadful phase as far as I'm concerned. I find the phase that comes after much more enjoyable. That you are really dating, looking forward to seeing each other again, and the (sexual) sparks that fly back and forth.

That phase is probably so enjoyable because it is also the most exciting phase. You really look forward to seeing each other again, and those dates are planned a few days in advance. However, it can also be that you feel more need to see each other than your lover does, or vice versa. To really get to know each other, you naturally need to meet regularly. How often is too much or too little, and how often is ‘just right’?
At the beginning of the real dating phase, it is very good to see each other once a week. For example, you might go out for a nice dinner together in the evening and then have a sleepover, but you also have enough time to miss your lover a bit. If those dates eventually also take place at home, like a relaxed evening on the couch, you have reached the stage where you should be meeting twice a week. You are then in the phase where you are not dating, no longer in a situationship, so it is time for one of you to ask for a relationship.

It remains important to still plan those real date nights even when you have been together longer and are extremely comfortable with each other. Because as nice as it is to cuddle up at home, we have seen with bachelor Paul and his Eline that a relationship can quickly run aground that way.