If your lover wants to be anally licked

In a relationship, the most important thing is that you can completely relax with your loved one. That you can do and say anything and be yourself without the other criticizing you for it. Especially in the early stages of a relationship, there is a lot of exploring and experimenting in the bedroom. Just feeling out what the other person's preferences are, still completely open-minded and curious about what the other enjoys.

It can be quite an adjustment when your partner suddenly suggests something you never thought of, let alone that it would occur to you to propose it. And I'm particularly talking about licking the anus. Yep, in case you didn't know: it's a fairly common desire, especially among heterosexual men. They simply don't all dare to admit it. But what do you do if your lover suddenly says after a few years that he would really enjoy it if you licked his anus during sex?

Licking the anus is commonly referred to as ‘rimming’ or ‘baffing’. Maybe you don't mind and you also enjoy experimenting a bit, but if that's not the case and you can't even think about getting your mouth near that area, it can become quite challenging.
A few tips for those who are going to try this:

• • Ask him to shower shortly beforehand and clean that area extra well.
  • You might also want to ask him to grab a razor so that it's completely free of obstacles down there.
  • In every sexual education class, it is mentioned at least once: if you want to prevent an STI, you should use a dental dam when performing oral sex. There's a small chance that this advice is often taken to heart, but the dental dam can of course also be used for other purposes, such as for rimming.

The most important tip is of course: if you really don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it. Always communicate with your partner about these kinds of important matters. Something that he feels very good about should not cause you distress.