Science says: this is the roadmap to successful dating
Sometimes science can make me SO happy. After all, everything has been researched once and therefore we never really need to reinvent the wheel. So too when it comes to dating. There is a scientifically based step-by-step plan that can make your dating life more successful than ever. Researchers have thrown all aspects of dating such as attraction, touch, romance, attention and interaction into a formula that I won't bore you with (OK, admittedly: I don't fully understand it, but then I'm a writer and not a scientist) and have come to the conclusion that this step-by-step plan will make your dating life a lot more sociable and successful.
Step 1: Understanding attraction and getting the right attention
To date successfully, you must first determine what you are looking for in a relationship partner. For example, do you want a long-term relationship or not? Also delve into the traits people generally want in a partner, and pick out the things you find important. From there, it is useful to think about what makes you attractive. This could be something physical, but could also be, for example, unique qualities. Emphasise this and be proud of who you are. Chances are, people will also find this attractive about you.
Step 2: Looking for your ideal date
Next, you need to find out where to find potential partners. This can be done online, but also in locations you like to visit. This is advice for the dating veterans among us, though, because we all know how scary it is to walk up to someone in real life. Once you've found a suitable group of potential partners, it's time to get their attention. Dare to break the ice and come across as confident when you start a conversation.
Step 3: Put it down to flirting
The next step is the very best: it's nice to flirt! According to researchers, people have different flirting styles, so if you find it a bit tricky, try to find out what yours is first. For instance, do you like to make jokes, touch someone a lot or do you wave your hair back every few seconds? Whatever it is, discovering your unique flirting style will help you confidently charm your interlocutor.
Step 4: Building a bond
Eventually, you will meet someone you like enough to get to know better and want to create deeper connection with. It is therefore useful to learn how to build a bond and connection and share more about yourself. Besides having a good conversation, planning fun activities and paying attention to romance can also influence the development of a relationship. At this point, then, you often turn to physical intimacy and are officially dating.
Step 5: Sealing the deal
In this last step, you often decide whether you like each other enough for a long-term relationship. Are you choosing each other or not? And why or why not? If all goes well, you now know each other well enough to talk openly and honestly about this, and in the end, of course, that's what lasts the longest. Do you want to go for each other? Then this conversation will lay the foundation for a fine and successful relationship.
Source: Psychology Today
