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The first time: sex with a woman

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So, you're about to have sex with a woman for the first time. How exciting is that?! It's a mix of nerves and excitement, and that's completely normal! Leave those worries behind for a moment, because we're going to talk about how to make this experience unforgettable.

Before the action

Before you dive into the action, it's good to have a strong foundation. Take the time to get to know each other – both emotionally and physically. Good communication is key! Talk about what you like, what you expect, and what boundaries you want to set. This makes it much easier to let go of that tension and enjoy together. It's normal to be nervous, but by discussing what you both expect and want, it becomes much less daunting.

Preparations

Okay, let's get practical! Make sure you're well prepared. Do you have contraception and protection nearby? Safety first, even in a lesbian relationship! Usually, you think of STIs only in heterosexual relationships, but sorry girls, women can catch them too. Read more about it here!

Create the right atmosphere

The place where you do it can make a world of difference. Choose a quiet, cozy space with some atmospheric lighting and maybe some nice music in the background. A chill vibe allows you to fully immerse yourself in the moment.

The first time

When the moment arrives, try to leave those nerves behind as much as possible – as far as you can! Take the time to explore each other. Enjoy touching, kissing, and discovering each other's bodies. Don't forget: it's not just about penetration. You really don't need a dildo, strap-on, or vibrator during the first time. Let your creativity flow and discover together what you both enjoy.

Of course, sex toys can help, but try it first without them. This way, you can really focus on each other. It can be exciting to go down on someone or finger them for the first time, but don't worry: you know what works for you, so you're not starting completely from scratch! Try to alternate to discover those sweet spots together.

If it's tricky, it can also help to watch porn together. And no, not just any porn, but ‘porn’ – specifically for her! We have plenty of lesbian videos that can help inspire you. Disclaimer: porn and 'porn' are not perfect sex and are nine times out of ten staged. Use it as inspiration, not as a blueprint for how it should be done.

Aftercare and reflection

After the action, it's lovely to relax together, cuddle, and talk. What did you enjoy? What would you like to do differently next time? This helps process the experience and strengthen your bond even more.

Everyone is unique

Remember: every experience is different, and that's completely okay! Give yourself and your partner the space to learn and grow in your sexual relationship.

The first time having sex with a woman can be both exciting and amazing. By communicating openly, respecting each other, and enjoying the moment together, it can become a beautiful experience. It's all about the connection you share, so relax, enjoy, and let go.