This is the biggest mistake you can make with a one night stand

Various studies show that a large percentage of adults (about 50-70% in Western countries) have had at least one one-night stand in their lives. For many people, they are a way to gain new experiences, to experiment, or simply to enjoy a moment without obligations. Hmmm. The pleasures, then. No burdens.

Having a quickie once in a while is quite nice, especially with a stranger. Someone who treats you well in bed, but you never have to meet again. A so-called one-night stand – fling, quickie, one day fly. Whatever you want to call it: what mistake do people make with a one-night stand? That is mainly: staying over. Do you do it or not? That is of course up to you: but often there is some confusion about it.

A one-night stand is about mutual consent and pleasure, without further obligations. But if you are not clear about what you want – or especially what you do not want – it can quickly become uncomfortable. It is about more than just consent for sex. It also includes details like what do you expect afterwards? Does someone stay over or do you go home right away? What are your boundaries during the evening itself? Are there things you are not comfortable with? How wild does the sex get with that stranger, then. And also: when does it stop? If you both lie there satisfied after your climax, does he or she then obediently go home? Usually, the answer is yes.

Because that might be for the best. Especially if alcohol is involved, you do not want to wake up next to that stranger feeling hungover. All fun, having a good time at night. But yes, then you would rather sleep in your own comfortable bed. You know: do not feel too guilty about it. It is fine to enjoy without big expectations or obligations. That is allowed too. As long as you both agree on it. Psychological research shows that men often have positive feelings about a one-night stand, such as satisfaction or pride. Women, on the other hand, often experience mixed feelings. Some feel empowered and free, while others may feel regret or guilt afterwards, depending on the circumstances.

So: always check how everyone feels after the encounter. Then you can happily continue with your lives, apart from each other. Or go ahead, you might still make it a sneaky two-night stand.