Why it's nice to hate your ex

‘Do you hate your ex, I hate him for you’: S10 and Froukje wrote a lovely song about it. The song is very catchy to sing along with, especially when you’ve just come out of a breakup not long ago. It’s noticeable that many people recognize themselves in the lyrics, as it quickly became a huge hit. But why is it that so many people hate their ex? Isn’t it easier and calmer for yourself to just part on good terms? Your paths are diverging, so whatever happened, you won’t be bothered by it later. Isn’t it much more serene to close it off well together? Especially when the chance is a bit bigger that you might run into each other in the future.

But secretly, it’s also quite nice to hate your ex. The main reason for that is that it’s simply easier to forget someone if you dislike him or her. Enormous anger and irritation towards someone ensure that you don’t miss that person as much. You focus on their bad qualities and everything that went wrong between you. By magnifying that, the temptation to pick up the phone again and keep texting becomes much smaller.

Still, in the long run, it’s better for yourself to ultimately bury the hatchet. Because when you run into each other, that hate causes a feeling of stress for yourself every time. It’s really annoying if you’re enjoying a concert, but that gets ruined because your ex loves the same band and happily bought tickets for it too, right? Give yourself the peace of a good closure. Yes, it will hurt more at first. But hate suppresses feelings of sadness, and by now we know that every form of sadness eventually comes back up.