You should never say this to single people

In the meantime, I have been in a very nice relationship for about two years, but before that, I was single for almost seven years. I didn't mind, but the single life can bring a number of frustrations. For example, think about always having to explain why you came alone to a family party again or people who constantly try to set you up with that nice nephew of the neighbor (never engage). All so unnecessary and deadly exhausting. Especially if you actually enjoy your single life and appreciate all the time for yourself. Keep these things absolutely to yourself if you feel the need to give advice to the nicest singles in your life.

“Don't be too picky.”
Okay, this advice is completely useless. Basically, you are saying that someone is still single because they have set the bar too high and not because they haven't met anyone who fits them well. The fact that there are people who settle for less because they are afraid of being alone doesn't mean they should do that too. Moreover, my pickiness has ultimately led me to the sweetest and nicest man in the country, so it definitely serves a purpose.

“When you know, you know.”
This is so not true. Sometimes you just need a little time to sort out your feelings, and sometimes you think you know, only to find out that you know nothing at all. The idea that you must immediately know how you feel about someone can lead to missed opportunities, as research shows that attraction can increase over time.

“If there are no sparks on the first date, they are not the one.”
I'm saying this a bit louder for the people with the budget cards in the back: NONSENSE! I have felt fireworks with people I did not fit with at all, and I have experienced more than once that feelings needed time to grow. Additionally, sparks can actually be a sign of fear or nervousness and have nothing to do with the feeling of being in love. True love must grow, that's just how it is.

“It happens when you least expect it.”
Okay Sandra, fine. This saying is already annoying when you are not looking for advice, but it is also useless when you are feeling frustrated about being single. Unexpected encounters can of course happen, and we would all love to have a meet-cute while bumping into each other at an airport, but this rarely happens. Your ideal partner usually doesn't just fall from the sky, and that's perfectly fine.

“You can't love anyone until you love yourself.”
Give. Me. A. Bucket. Sure, I am all for self-love, but you can absolutely work on self-love while being in a relationship. A relationship in which you are fully seen and accepted can help improve your relationship with each other and with yourself.