Love & Sex

Good resolution from Renske: sober sex! OEH LA LA

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A couple laughs and kisses each other lying on a bed with a bottle of champagne, illustrating the intimacy and romance in a relationship in the context of the essay on 'sober sex' versus 'drunk sex'.

Hallelujah, I'm going to type something again that will make your ears turn red. So brace yourself. Here it comes. I have sex quite often when I'm tipsy...

I have sex quite often when I'm tipsy. Or how do you say that? When I've managed to hit it just right, so to speak. The bottle. The bottle of wine. The bottle of red wine. Goodness, you all are so curious again. The audacity. The arrogance. The pushiness! Where has the time gone when people were satisfied with half information?
Anyways, drunk sex. Let's first talk about how it comes about. Look, we don't need to make it too complicated: it's just a matter of drinking and then having sex finally having an extensive drink and talk with The Man, and through that nice conversation, through that divine togetherness suddenly getting a terrible urge for sex. Of course, sex with a drink in you can be incredibly frank, free, wild, and rock ’n roll. It's wonderful to have a little less boundaries, to not worry at all about what The Other might think or feel about your (bed performances). Still, I need to get something off my chest. I don't know how it is for you, but my orgasms... they are absolutely not as nice when I've been drinking. Sometimes IT DOESN'T EVEN WORK TO FINISH.

“Anyways, drunk sex.”

There, I said it. And I'm really not an exception, if you sometimes think that. It is scientifically (!) proven that your orgasms can be less intense due to alcohol. Moreover, I just read in the British Marie Claire that it's not really great for your relationship if you only jump into bed with each other in an obvious state. When you're drunk, you just have ‘sex’, in a sober state you actually make ‘love’. You're more focused on each other instead of yourself and your animalistic needs at those moments. The psychological and physical connection is much stronger when you work together sober.
And that's why, dear people, and that's why I've decided that SOBER SEX is my very first, but mega important good intention for 2017. May just gave me a pretty good tip: drink in the evening and just move the sex to the next morning. That's what I say: to be continued.