Love & Sex

Does playing with yourself help if you want to boost your sex life?

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Well, it's more fun to do it together, we understand that too, but yes, sometimes there's a bit of lust and the other person isn't home. Does it help to play with yourself to give your sex life a bit of a boost?

Most people masturbate, even when they are in a relationship. Is it detrimental to your love life as a couple or does it actually increase libido?

The main reason there is little sex in your relationship is of course that low libido. According to American relationship therapists, it does help if you engage in solo sex. This way, you regain some pleasure with your body that you might be missing in the bedroom with each other. By reaching orgasm again, you become more interested in having sex with your partner. It mainly works like this: in most relationships, one of the two has a higher sex drive. This inevitably leads to clashes: almost no couple wants to have sex exactly as often at exactly the same moment. Where one enjoys a morning quickie, the other can't even think about it at dawn, and where the other gets in the mood late at night, the other just wants to sleep. How do you solve that? Yes, through solo sex. Not a problem at all.

You should also see it separately: playing with yourself often goes quickly and effectively. Just a quick release. A nice orgasm and done. With your partner, sex is much more intimate; it's a connection, it's loving each other. There's (literally) much more involved. That self-love that you allow yourself is definitely worth it. Don't feel guilty if you feel like it sometimes, but indulge in it. It certainly doesn't mean that your relationship is in trouble. According to experts, masturbation actually helps you sleep better, reduces stress, and makes you more confident. Enjoy it, and then enjoy it together again next time. Everybody happy.