These are the signs that your date will be a success

As you step into the café with trembling knees for that first date, all sorts of thoughts race through your mind. What questions are you going to ask and what signals should you pay attention to? With all the well-meaning advice on TikTok, your red-flag-radar is probably working overtime. But while you are so focused on the signs that say you should run away in high gear, you might almost forget that it can also turn out positively. To give you a hand, dating expert Sabrina Zohar gathered a number of green flags in your date's body language. Do you see these signals? Then you can probably start aligning your schedules again.

The right body direction

The eyes can of course reveal a lot about where someone's attention lies, but the same goes for the rest of the body. According to Zohar, someone who has genuine interest will turn their body completely towards the other person. “It’s their way of saying, I’m here and I’m engaged with you.” If the face, shoulders, and maybe even the feet of your potential lover point your way, that is a big green flag that the date is being taken seriously. Conversely, it also means that if the other person turns away from you, they are probably thinking about something else. So pay close attention.

Actively listening

There is little more irritating than feeling that the other person is not listening to you at all during a conversation. If you wanted to give a monologue, you might as well have talked to the mirror. It also relates to interest; noticing that someone really wants to hear what you have to say gives you a nice feeling. Not only that, it is of course also a must to discover if you could be a match. According to Zohar, it is therefore important to observe how the other person reacts when you say something. What you are actually looking for: those subtle nods and an occasional ‘mhm’. All signals that your date is really actively listening to you. But be careful, even now the gaze remains important. Not looking at you but occasionally saying absent-minded ‘yes’ can be a way to throw you off.

Keeping nerves under control

We can all agree that such a first date is mega exciting. Somewhere that is also a bit reassuring; while you try to get your trembling hands under control, you will probably also catch your date showing some nervous traits. Fidgeting with clothes or wobbling with a glass, all things that according to Zohar you can actually see as green flags. They are ways in which your body tries to release that tense energy when there is attraction and interest. However, the nerves should not get out of hand. Continuously looking around or wobbling so much that you think your date is going to run away is not the intention. This also applies to reaching for their phone too often. These are all signals that the other person is really uncomfortable, which you obviously don’t want. It can sometimes be difficult to gauge until when the tension is normal; according to Zohar, it is therefore important to keep paying attention, but also not to overanalyze every movement.

The body language of your date can therefore tell you a lot, also in a positive way. Perhaps the choice of whether or not to plan a second date becomes just a little easier.

Source: PureWow