This is how you prevent arguments on vacation with your loved one
I notice that I can sometimes get a bit jealous of people who travel the world with their loved ones for months on end. I can't even go on vacation with my boyfriend for two weeks without things going haywire. Now, we are both quite fiery types who don't exactly agree with each other often – so it's not very surprising. We also want to determine how our day goes, and that can sometimes be tricky on vacation. For example, during our first trip to Rome, things went wrong on the second evening.
In the taxi on the way to the restaurant, we had a huge argument, and after we were kicked out of the taxi with Italian insults, we decided to split up for the evening. Well, this decision was not made in harmony. We both just stormed off in different directions.
I found a cozy little restaurant and decided to make the best of it. I was having a great time: the waiter thought I was alone in Rome and treated me to one cocktail after another. After I finished eating, he asked if I wanted to go out with him. The answer that I was in Rome with my loved one and therefore had to politely decline surprised him quite a bit. Understandably so.
I went to see where my loved one was hanging out. He sent his live location, and we found out that we had practically eaten around the corner from each other. We thought we were kilometers apart. When I arrived a few minutes later at a little square, he was waiting for me with a red rose that he had bought from someone on the street. I couldn't help but laugh. And tried to hide my slightly tipsy state a bit, because he hadn't had any free cocktails and I had quite a few.
Well, this trip didn't turn out so well. The following year, we decided to drive to the south of France. I wouldn't recommend anyone to tour through southern Europe in a black car without air conditioning in the middle of August. Matching our car, we entered France on Black Saturday. Apparently, the whole world knew that this is the day when all the French go on vacation. We had never heard of this day. We were stuck in a standstill for 9 hours (NINE HOURS). I'll spare you the rest of the trip.
After a number of trips, we concluded that vacation just isn't really for us. But to never go away together again would also be quite unfun. That's why we're going to try again in a week. Barcelona this time. We have decided to approach it better. Here are some tips for those who also find a romantic vacation together to be a hassle. Hopefully, this will help you.
1. Don't go for too long.
No one is forcing you to go on vacation for a month. Maybe it works better for you to take short city trips, and the longer trips are more for you alone or with a friend.
2. Don't go by car.
If you both tend to bicker with each other quickly, absolutely do not go on vacation by car. Road trips often come with traffic jams, fatigue, and in the worst case, even car trouble. Choose the safe route and go by train or plane.
3. Don't stay in the middle of nowhere.
If you both need to do something apart from each other sometimes, make sure to go to a place where you can both do that. As soon as you sense trouble brewing, you can go have a coffee alone or take a dip. Often, the air is cleared afterward. If you sleep in a place in the middle of nowhere, this becomes difficult.
4. Do the planning together.
Make sure you really decide together where you are going. Which place and where you will sleep. This way, you can't blame each other for the location or the accommodation. If it all goes wrong, you did it together, and if it all goes great, you did that well together.
5. Make agreements on vacation.
Do you often argue about where to eat or what to do in a day? Then agree that you both get to decide something each day. Let your loved one decide where you will have dinner, and think for yourself about how you will fill the day. This way, you both feel like you have a say in the vacation.
